Saturday, September 19, 2009

Quoteable Quotes


Last night NG asked TD (he has her for the weekend) what she thought about Dad's girlfriend.  "If she loves you, I like her.  I like her curly hair, and if she wants to have babies I like her."  Apparently TD is 8 going on 16.  She has always wanted a sibling and according to NG is a very maternal little girl.  Obviously only time will tell, and a lot of kids say they want siblings right up until one comes along, but I still (probably naively) think it's a good start. 

Friday, September 18, 2009

Well..........


no sooner do I start a dating blog then I appear to be done with dating! At least that's the working plan, according to Nice Guy. I have never dated someone so committed so quickly. For me, this is a very very good thing. I'm not a fan of ambiguity and I'm not getting younger. He said he knew when I walked in on our first date, it took me a bit longer. NG is family-oriented, kind, gentle, and fun. I have never been with someone so unintentionally thoughtful. He does random stuff like leaving me sweet messages on the refrigerator written with his daughter's magnet letters, making dinner on a Sunday when I will be travelling, and sending me a sweet text message when HE is outside walking MY dog. NG loves my dog (not her hair, but I don't love her hair either), loves me, and is excited to be a family one day. He wants to build an addition to his house, have two kids, and live between my family farm in VA and his in NY when we're old. We will literally have 2 1/2 kids and a dog. We will be the statistical average. Our kids will be short, and we joke about the need for ground level instead of overhead cabinets. I am frequently surprised by how much he wants to be with me, and how its not needy and weird, he just likes me that much.

So maybe my blog now becomes one of the perils of dating a man with a child. She is a pistol from what I gather. She's very bright and doesn't miss a thing. When she saw the food and water in bowls on the floor, she asked who has a dog. "My friend." "Friend or girlfriend?" "Girlfriend." "Girl-friend or girlfriend?" She's 8. The other day she wanted to know if I sleep with him when I come over. I'm a little concerned that this is a planted question from her mom, but 8 isn't what it used to be either. She really wants to meet me, and we're letting her get used to the idea of me for a little while first.
We're not really sure how much the ex dates or how much TD knows about her mom dating. I'm concerned about the whole situation, but NG says he isn't really. "She is a good judge of character, being the awesome person you are, she'll like you quickly." He also said the ex has always said she knows he'll get married again and have more children. She wants to set a good example for TD, and that seems to be her primary concern. I would never do anything to the contrary. I'm reading up on the stepparenting thing, really just trying to get some ideas of what not to do so I don't screw something up unintentionally. NG and I have talked about it some, and we're on the same page. That's one of the best things about us I think, we make a good team.

His dad is coming to visit the first week of October and he wants me to meet him. His dad and TD are close, so I'm wondering how that will play out. Advice, comments, and suggestions are more than welcome, this is totally unchartered territory for me!


As a sidenote, I am really amused and inspired by two blogs I have found in my search for reflections on stepmothering. One is http://witheyeswideopen2.blogspot.com/, wonderfully candid.  The other is accessed through the button below, unapologetically non-domestic and childfree, La Belle Mere has not lost her singleton soul since becoming a married.  :-)
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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

*sigh*


I have nothing to complain about. I started this blog so I would have somewhere to complain and laugh at the ridiculousness of dating. Apparently after only 3 guys worth of entries, things stopped being so ridiculous!! Not that I'm whining, believe me, the sooner I can stop living in the ridiculousness, the better as far as I'm concerned.
Obviously, things are still going well with NG. We both feel like we're really really compatible, and we're both aware it's been less than a month. I'm typically the one that starts thinking about future stuff first, but he totally beat me to it. I swear we share a brain.
His dad is coming to town at the end of the month and he wants me to meet him. He'll be coming to the burg with me for a football game pretty soon. His daughter is about to BUST SOMETHING to meet me, but we're holding off on that just to be sure. She sent me a few texts from his phone the other day while we were writing back and forth, got a big kick out of that. We're trying to really ease into it with her. The last woman he dated didn't like her, didn't like kids at all from what I gather, and the feeling was mutual. I don't want us to get attached and then have it not work out. That's one kind of heartbreak I haven't had and am not interested in experiencing. He swears he's not going anywhere.....I'm actually starting to believe him!
There are a lot of things about him that are very different from other guys I've dated. For starters he's not tall and has hair. More importantly though, he's more like me than anyone I've dated. I can just be myself and he gets all excited and tells me how great I am. Totally random thoughts? Follows them. Sense of humor? Gets it. Pretty dress, heels, makeup and hair perfect? Loves it. Hole-in-the-knee jeans, ball cap, Tevas and a ratty t-shirt (helping him paint cabinet doors)?? Loves it. Swanky restaurant? Happy. Fire pit in a friend's backyard? Happy. I've always wanted a well-rounded man and here he is! Family-oriented. Industrious. Funny. Smart. Adoring. Easy-going. Animal loving. No complaints indeed.